When your self-worth goes up, your net worth goes up with it.
Mark Victor Hanse
Imagine if it were true that how you feel about yourself determines the success you achieve.
All you would need to do would be to work on liking and accepting yourself that little bit more and all that you want to achieve or experience would fall into place effortlessly.
Sound good? Amazingly, this is how life works.
You are the expert on you, because you know yourself better than anyone else does. As a result, other people agree with your own self-judgement without question.
“But how do they know how I feel about me?”
This is the same question so many before you have asked too.
The answer? Your self-worth is written in red in the sky above you. It follows in a thought balloon above your head. It floats as a banner behind you and flies as a flag before you.
How you think about yourself is evident to all around you, because they hear it in the words you say, see it in your body language and feel it in your energetic presence. And those around you act on what they pick up from you – they just don’t know they do.
Think about this from the other’s perspective. Have you ever wondered why you rejected someone’s idea, or refused his or her invitation, or turned down his or her job application? You are probably not aware that your reaction was in response to an unspoken dance of communication in which you picked up all you needed to know about the other: what they thought of self.
Now, thinking about yourself, if you apply for a job that YOU do not believe you are worthy of, you will not get it. If you try to sell an idea to someone, but don’t value YOURSELF as the person that had the idea, the other will not buy it. If you try to do something, but do not believe you can do it, YOU will not be successful.
You are the other you want to convince. YOU interview yourself first and if you do not believe you can do the job, you will fail at the interview with the other. YOU decide on the value of an idea you have first and if you do not believe it, you will never be able to convince anyone else.
YOU are the judge and jury on YOU. The other person just responds to this judgement and acts accordingly.
If you attempt anything that ‘over-reaches’ your own concept of what you deserve or are likely to achieve, you will fail.
Could you give yourself the gift of self worth?
Maybe, just maybe, you could allow yourself a tiny glimpse of who you really are.
(c) Anne Fuller-Good